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Hello,
When we feel worried about someone who were close to and we care about, it can make us feel very unhappy too. Deciding to talk about this is a really positive step. I can hear how hard youre trying to support your friend and its clear how special your friendship is.
We understand that self-harm can be a way to cope and it sounds as though your friend is having a very difficult time managing such a lot on her own. It might be very hard for her to try to stop cutting if she doesnt feel ready, no matter how hard you try to encourage her.
It sounds very difficult for her to talk about whats wrong but if you think she could be in danger its important to tell an adult as soon as possible so that your friend can get help even if she doesnt want to tell anyone herself.
Your friend has been diagnosed with anxiety and depression which suggests that a doctor is already helping her. These are illnesses and it isnt your responsibility to try to make her better. Even if it feels like youre not doing anything, just being beside her and reminding her that you care about her could be a big help.
It sounds as though you went through a tough time a few years ago and it can be a lot to listen to someone elses experiences. Its important that you can take care of yourself now too. Youre doing such a lot to support your friend and it would be good to think about your own support network.
You mentioned how your mum helped you after your friend spoke to her and it might be an idea to think about talking to her about your worries.
ChildLine counsellors are here for both of you and talking about your feelings could help you decide what to do next to help your friend.
Take care,
Sam
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