Ask Sam letter


To Sam


I have a boyfriend and we've been together for 5 months now, but we live half an hour away from eachother and I know that sounds silly but it's really hard because I can only see him at weekends, and sometimes I can't even see him because he can't get to me and my mum doesn't let me go to him because of where he lives. I get really emotional through the week and I always really miss him. In a few months he is moving football teams which means he has training on Friday nights quite late and matches on Sunday's, so I might not get to see him as much because he won't be able to get to me and mum doesn't let me go and see him:( I don't know what to do:(
Ask Sam


Hi there,

Relationships can be a lot of fun but at times they can also be challenging. Finding it hard to spend time with each other could add pressure and mean that you really miss each other or feel upset. It’s natural to feel like this when you are unable to see much of someone you care about.

Communication is very important part of a healthy relationship. Talking to each other and your parents or carers could be a way to be organised about making sure you see each other as often as you can. Being open and honest about your feelings can help other people to understand your point of view.

It’s hard when individual commitments impact on your relationship or time together, but having your own interests is also important so you can be independent as well as part of a relationship.

It could be a good idea to remember that there are lots of different ways of keeping in touch even though you may not be able to see each other in person.

If you’d like to talk more about what you could do, you can talk to a ChildLine counsellor at any time by phoning 0800 1111, sending an email or having a 1-2-1 chat. There is also some really good advice from other young people here on the Relationships message boards.

Take care,

Need help straight away?

You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.

Ask me a question

You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.

Write me a letter