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im 14 and i think im pregant i dont know how i havent had sex but still i dont know and i dont want to tell my parents beacuse im scared and they will get mad and i dont want to and i dont know what to do please help me if i am somehow prgnant i dont want to kepp it plz i cant really explain t but i think i am becuase my periods late please help im soo scared
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Hi there,

It can be really worrying thinking that you might be pregnant and not being sure whether or not that is the case. Lots of people can feel unsure about what to do in this situation and if they are pregnant what to do next.

For a woman or girl to become pregnant they would either have had sex with a male or been sexually intimate in some way so that sperm could have come into contact with their vagina. This can including touching each other's genitals.

Pregnancy tests are the way to check if you are pregnant. These can be done by visiting a GP. You could also do a pregnancy test at home, by picking one up for free at a doctor’s surgery, getting one from an NHS walk-in centre or sexual health clinic, or by buying one from a pharmacy.

Often young people who are pregnant can be scared about telling others. They may feel worried about how people might react. The sooner someone gets medical advice (from a doctor or nurse), the more options they have about what to do next.

If someone doesn’t want to keep the baby, some of the options include having the baby adopted/fostered or having an abortion. The laws around abortion are different depending on what part of the UK someone is in and there is more information about that on the abortion page.

Pregnancy isn’t the only reason that periods can be missed or late. Your periods are controlled by your hormones and sometimes things can affect these hormones such as medication, stress, extreme weight changes and even doing a lot of exercise. Sometimes health conditions can stop periods or make them become irregular too. As with any possible health problem it is always a good idea to see a doctor to get things checked out.

Sometimes people can feel worried about what might happen if they do visit a doctor, we’ve got some more information on this page about how to do that and around confidentiality that might be useful to take a look at.

I understand that thinking about your options and possibly talking to people about this, whether that is parents or carers or a doctor, can be difficult. ChildLine counsellors can always be here to talk this through with, either by calling on 0800 1111 (all calls are free and don’t show up on the bill) or by logging on for a 1-2-1 chat.

Take care,

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