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Hey Sam, I hope you see this!

I'm 15 years old. My boyfriend is 18. We have been going out for 17 months now.

We have had sex but we always use a condom and he still pulls out before he...  Anyway the condoms never split or leaked.

I've noticed that I was late on my period (I am usually late three weeks) But I've been late a month. I did a pregnancy test and it was negative, the week later still no period so I did another test.  It was negative again.

I have got no signs or symptoms of pregnancy apart from a missed period. As I'm really scared I've been researching abortions and what to do all day. My boyfriend said he'll take me to a brook clinic to see if I was. The only thing is, mine or his family can't find our because if they do I won't be allowed to see him. If I was to go to a brook clinic and I was pregnant they won't tell my family will they. Or the abortion clinic.

Do you think I'm pregnant or is it stress because of my exams

Ask Sam


Hi there,

Thanks for your letter. It feels like you are very anxious at the moment about the possibility of becoming pregnant.

It seems unlikely that you are pregnant. You have told me about having safe sex and you've said the condom didn’t split. Also, both of the pregnancy tests you have done were negative, so it is unlikely that you are pregnant.

Your boyfriend sounds very supportive. It would be a good idea to take him up on the offer to get checked out at the Brook Clinic or another young person’s sexual health clinic. Brook has a very helpful website. They offer free and confidential information if you are aged under 25, so they will not involve your parents. 

If you live in England, Scotland or Wales then you’re able to get an abortion for free and you don’t have to involve your parents. However if you do this, it’s likely that you’ll be strongly encouraged to talk to your parents about it. It will be up to you though. You could always check this out with someone like Brook if you feel you want more reassurance.

There are many reasons for periods to be late such as pregnancy, stress, a change in diet and being ill. If you keep having irregular periods, it might be a good idea to get checked out by your GP.

If you would like to talk more, you could contact a ChildLine Counsellor on 0800 1111 or have a 1-2-1 chat online.

Take care for now,

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