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Hi there,
Thanks for you letter.
I can hear how concerned you are about your best friend. Its clear how much you care for her and it seems as though you have a very special friendship.
You mentioned that your friend takes tablets for depression, which suggests shes seeing a doctor and is receiving treatment for her illness. Thats really good to know, because it means shes taken steps to get the support she needs to get better.
People with depression do sometimes talk about wanting to die and other really sad ideas. These ideas are part of the illness and if the doctors treating her are aware of them they will be able to help. I can hear how scary and upsetting it is for you to hear your friend talk like this. If shes talking about having plans to die, or anything else that makes you really worried, its important that you speak to an adult.
You could consider talking to your friends parents or you could ask your parents to do this for you. If youd prefer, you could chat to a teacher at school and let them know whats worrying you. Its important that the doctors are aware of whats really happening so they can provide the correct treatment for your friends illness. You could also always suggest that your best friend contacts ChildLine herself and talks to one of our counsellors about how she feels.
Youve asked me what you can do to help. Depression is an illness and its important that you dont take on the responsibility for making your friend better. Thats what the doctors and other professionals are there for. What you can do is make her recovery less lonely, by showing her how much you care. It feels as though youre doing all the right things already by listening to her and supporting her. Youve told me that you all love her to bits, so keep reminding her of that too.
You might find it helpful to read more about depression and feeling sad in Explore. Theres a short video on that page that helps explains a little of what it is like to have depression. Another great website is Epic friends, which explains how to help friends with mental health issues.
Supporting a friend who is depressed can be difficult and worrying. Its really important to look after your own feelings while youre helping your friend. If you would like to talk to someone, remember that ChildLine are here for you. You can speak to a counsellor anytime, either on the phone 0800 1111 (free call) or on a 1-2-1 chat, whichever you prefer.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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