Hi im a 15 year old boy and I masturbate alot and I dont know why its like an addiction! I masturbate around 7 times a day and want to know why I do so much and I also get really sexually attracted to my friends mum please help
Hi there,
Thanks for getting in touch. Firstly I can hear that you are concerned that you might be addicted to masturbating. Masturbation is completely natural, healthy and normal. It is not something that you should feel guilty about doing.
Lots of things people say about masturbation are not true. Masturbation does not cause any mental or physical harm. Even if you masturbate and ejaculate or orgasm many times a day, it will not have any negative effects on your health.
It's fine to masturbate as often or as little as you like. Some people don't masturbate at all, and that's okay too.
It sounds like you may be worried that you are masturbating too much, and you've said that it feels difficult for you to stop. Theres no normal amount of masturbation. Dont worry if it feels like you have regular urges to masturbate over and over. This can be very normal.
In rare cases, young people can get addicted to masturbating, or addicted to masturbating while watching porn. Perhaps you could ask yourself if the amount you're masturbating is causing problems with a partner, your social life, or affecting you physically such as hurting your genitals.
If any of these apply to you, it may be good to book an appointment with your GP to talk things through. Your GP will be used to hearing these things and they wont judge you.
I can hear that you also have concerns about being sexually attracted to your friends mum. Again, it is very normal at your age to have regular sexual thoughts, attractions and fantasies. Different people will have different types of fantasies, and thats okay. Whilst some fantasies might be okay to act on, this doesnt sound like one of them. You are under the age of consent to have sex, and it would almost certainly affect your friendship.
If you still have any questions about this, you can find some useful info on the Brook website, or you could get help and support from other young people in similar situations on the ChildLine message boards.
You can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor by calling 0800 1111, sending an email or logging on for a 1-2-1 chat.
Take care,
Sam
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