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Hi there,
Someone staring at you in a sexual way or touching you inappropriately is wrong. And this classed as sexual harassment. You have done the right thing talking to me about how this has been making you feel.
It was really mature and sensible to talk to this guy about how what hes doing is making you feel, although it sounds like he hasnt changed his behaviour. Its not okay for him to act this way around you and you dont have to put up with it.
Talking to teachers about something embarrassing is hard. And its common to feel like you are overreacting. But as this is something thats affecting you its not an overreaction. You havent done anything wrong and what this guy is doing at school shouldnt be happening.
Everyone has the right to feel safe and secure at school, and it doesnt sound like this is happening at the moment. You could talk to a member of staff, or another trusted adult about what has been happening. It may be an option to try to do this with your friend, so that you can support each other with this.
You mention you made a racist comment and this is something that goes against what you believe. It can be worth spending some time thinking about other ways to respond to this type of treatment. We can sometimes react in a way that does not define us and this makes us feel disappointed in ourselves.
You can talk this through some more if you need to with one of our counsellors, they will be happy to chat about this confidentially. Remember they're here to support you.
Take care,
Sam
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