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I'm Pregnant! Help!

Hey Sam. Im 17 and just found out that i'm pregnant. I am definetly having an abortion since i want ot focus on my A Levels and focus on my career as harsh as it may sound. I'm quiet confused. I cant talk to my parents about it, because they will be really mad and probably stop talking to me. (im south asain) so they will be embrassessed and stop talking to me. Where do i get an abortion? and will they tell my parents? THANKS! please reply!!!
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Hi and thanks for your letter.

It sounds like finding out you are pregnant is really hard for you, as you say you can’t talk to your parents about it because they would be mad, embarrassed and would stop talking to you. Maybe you could think about talking to a friend who could support you.

I can hear that you have made the decision that an abortion would be the best thing for you as you want to concentrate on your A levels and your career. I don’t think that sounds harsh, it sounds like you have thought about the impact that having a baby might have on your life and you have recognised that it isn’t something you want to do right now, and that’s ok.

You have asked where you can go to arrange an abortion and would like to know whether they will tell your parents. It’s difficult to answer whether any services you contact would be confidential, but perhaps you could ask them before you discuss what’s happening for you. Brook have lots of information and advice about pregnancy and sexual health. They would also be able to tell you about abortion services in your local area. They also have a free helpline which is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm, their number is 0808 802 1234.

You might also like to take a look at the Pregnancy message boards where lots of young people have shared their thoughts and feelings about a number of issues. You can also contact ChildLine to talk about this with a counsellor on 0800 1111, or if you prefer you could have a 1-2-1 online chat or send an email. They will be happy to hear from you and want to help.

Take care,


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