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Im crushing so hard on my english teacher

Im a 13 year old girl and my English Teacher is 25. He has been my all-time-favourite teacher since first day of secondary school. But recently, when I see him I feel that my heart is racing. He suddenly seemed so hot and cute. He is humourous and witty and i like his cute dry humour. I know its VERY wrong to like a teacher
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Hi there,

Thanks for writing in to me about your feelings for your teacher. I want you to know that it is not wrong to have a crush on someone like a teacher, it would only be wrong if you and your teacher were to act upon the feelings that you have.

Having a crush is completely normal. Lots of people develop crushes on people like teachers or celebrities but they know in reality it could never go any further than being a fantasy.

It seems you have a clear idea of the characteristics that you like in someone, which is great. These are characteristics that could look for in a person when you are at a point in your life where you would like to start a relationship with someone suitable. 

If this is something you feel comfortable talking about, it can sometimes help share your feelings with someone you trust, as they could offer some support with how they coped with their crushes. Perhaps also the ChildLine community might be able to help you.

If you wanted to talk this through some more you can come through and talk with one of our counsellors who would be happy to support you either by calling us for free on 0800 1111 having a 1-2-1 chat or sending an email.

Take care,

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