Hi there,
Thank you for writing to me and letting me know how youre feeling. That can take a lot of courage, so well done.
Parents are responsible for taking care of us while were growing up. A parents responsibility should not just involve being in charge of their children. It should also include loving them, taking care of them, nurturing them, supporting them and all the other things we need develop and get ready for adult life. It should also be ok to ask parents polite questions when were not sure about something. This is how we learn and get new knowledge.
Youve not said what your dad is actually asking you to do, but the topic youve chosen is sex. This makes me wonder if your dad is asking you to do sexual things, which would be very wrong of him. This would be sexual abuse. If thats whats happening for you right now, I would really encourage you to talk to the police, or a teacher at school. No adult has the right to ask a young person to do something sexual, no matter who they are. It is always ok to say no to any kind of sexual activity or touching that you dont want.
Even if it isnt sexual, if your dad is asking you to do anything that youre uncomfortable with or unsure about, then its ok to ask questions and to explain how you feel. Perhaps you could also talk to someone else about it. That person could be a teacher, another family member or even a friend.
If you would like to talk more about this or any other issue, ChildLine counsellors would like to hear from you. You could log in for a 1-2-1 chat or call the free helpline 0800 1111. You could even send them an email. They could support you and help you to explore any options you may have.
I hope this helps,
Take care,
Sam.
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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