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I think I'm pregnant

I'm 13. I have never had sex, or even a boyfriend. I have also never had my period. I've heard of some cases of getting pregnant without even having your period. Anyways, my stomach's getting bigger. But I am kind of chunky only in my belly anyways. It runs in the family. I think my stomach is getting bigger. I also have stool problems, diarrhea and constipation. My stomach hurts sometimes. I really am scared. Please help
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Hi there,

I get lots of letters from young people with similar worries. It’s important to know that to get pregnant, sperm needs to come into contact with your vagina. You’ve never had sex or sexual contact with a boy. This means that it's unlikely for you to have become pregnant.

Girls start their periods at different times. It usually happens before a girl reaches 16. You might have heard about rare cases of girls getting pregnant before having their first period. This is when a girl has had unprotected sex leading up to the time that their first period was due to happen. 

You’ve mentioned noticing changes to your stomach and having constipation and diarrhoea. It could be a good idea to make an appointment to see your doctor for medical advice about this. I’m not sure whether you’ve told anyone about the health problems you’ve mentioned. Perhaps you could tell somebody so that they can support you when you go to the doctor.

I can hear that you’ve been feeling really scared and you don’t have to go through this on your own. If you’re not sure about what to do or you need someone to talk to, you can always speak to one of our counsellors for support.

You’ve done well to get in touch and I hope you get the support you need.

Take care,

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