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i think i may be pregant

well i am 15 and about 2 weeks ago i whent  to my friends party.. me and this boy was drunk and we had sex. but he only put his penius inside me for like 20 secons and he dident cum inside me... anyway i have been on my period this month and my stomack is hurting. i just ate my food and now i am hungy again and my stomak is always making a nouice.. i have been felling sick since i had sex with him and my back is hurting today.. i dont fell any diffrent.. my right side at the top of my leg is hurting me like a crampy kind of felling :/. we dident use protection.. i am afried that i might be pregant please help i dont want to take a test beacuse people will look at me stupid and i cant tell my friends beacuse they will think i am attenshion seccing and i cant go to my gp beacuse my mum will find out :/ what should i do isi normal to miss a month of my period x?
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Sam

Hi there,

Thanks for your message.

You’ve done the right thing by looking for advice. Unfortunately, there’s always a risk of pregnancy if you’ve had sex without using contraception, even if the boy didn't ejaculate (cum). This is because boys can start to leak small amounts of sperm from their penis as soon as they get an erection. There’s some more information about this on Brook’s sexual health website.

I can hear that you’re worried about people’s reactions if you decide to take a pregnancy test. If you’ve had unprotected sex and have missed a period, taking a test is the right thing to do. It’s the only way to know if you are pregnant at this point. There are a few different options for getting a test done without anyone else knowing. At 15, you are entitled to a confidential service from your GP, so they shouldn't tell your mum if you ask for a pregnancy test. Some young people feel more comfortable going to a specialist sexual health clinic to get advice on pregnancy testing and contraception. The NHS website has a page where you can search for your nearest clinic. You can also buy a test yourself from any chemist or large supermarket.

If you are pregnant, your GP or sexual health clinic can talk to you about what you may want to do next. It will be your choice what happens, but it’s always good to have someone to talk through your options. If you aren’t pregnant, it would be a great idea to get advice about contraception so that you can keep yourself safe from sexually transmitted infections as well as avoiding future pregnancy scares.

There’s some good information in the Explore section around what to do if you think you’re pregnant. You could look at the message boards, where you can read stories from other young people who have experienced similar situations. There is also useful information about sex, sexual health and pregnancy on Like it is.

I can hear that you’re worried about being judged, but it’s important that you know you don’t have to go through this alone. You can always speak to a ChildLine counsellor in confidence. Perhaps you could also think about speaking to someone in your life that you trust. Everyone makes choices they regret sometimes, and a good friend won’t judge you for that.

If you would like to talk some more about how you feel you are welcome to send the counselling team an email, log in for a 1-2-1 chat or contact the helpline on 0800 1111.

I hope this helps. Take care,

Sam

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