Hi there,
Im glad you felt able to share your problem with me - realising you need some support to make a decision is really mature.
Having a baby is a massive step to take so its great that you and your boyfriend have talked about it, and youve thought of how it will affect your life; you mentioned it excites you, but also acknowledge that youre only 15 I wonder if you feel you might be too young?
For some people bringing a life into the world is exciting, but often people also feel worry and fear, as it is a huge change and commitment - once you have a child youll be responsible to the child until they are at least 18.
It is great that you have experience of looking after children but having your own child can feel very different, you and your boyfriend will be responsible for that childs safety and wellbeing all day, every day.
If you havent already it might be worth considering how you would financially support yourself and a baby, and whether your aunt would allow you to continue living with her if not you might also have to find somewhere to live, and to furnish the place, as well as buying baby items.
Its also worth considering how you would continue your education once you had a child to look after. It is possible to continue your education with a child but it does make it harder, youll have to think about child care too.
A final point to think about is how your relationship with your boyfriend might change once you have a child, you say youve only been together 5 months; often a child can put a strain on a relationship because there is someone else to consider.
All of the above might feel alright to you if you were to have the one child, but I am wondering how you would cope if you had twins or triplets - which is possible.
There is a lot to think about, and ultimately only you and your boyfriend can decide what is right for you both at this stage of your lives. Perhaps it would help to speak to a counsellor on the phone on 0800 1111 (calls are free), or login for a 1-2-1 chat; itll give you an opportunity to talk through what Ive mentioned, and to explore your feelings.
Take care,
Sam
