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ive been with my boyfriend 2 year and he's just started taking Prozac for his depression he's had suicidal thoughts for about 7 month and I don't know what to do anymore whatever I say doesn't do anything and he's been horrible to me people tell me to leave him but i love him he doesn't call me beautiful anymore he doesn't even tell me he loves me he's 17 and I need help I can't leave him because I love him but I can't cope with him been horrible to me I can't tell him how I feel because I'm scared of him and I know it's stupid to say but I am everyone tells me he's a phyco just please help me
from J***
Hi there,
It sounds like youre in a really difficult situation on the one hand you care about your boyfriend a lot, but on the other hes hurting you by the way he treats you.
I can hear that your boyfriend has been having problems of his own depression can make a person act differently to how they might normally act but hes still responsible for his words and actions. Having depression isnt an excuse to be horrible to you.
If you feel unsafe around him and that he might hurt you more in the future, it would be okay to decide to leave him. Sometimes people who are in relationships where they are being hurt find it difficult to leave. That decision is one only you can make I cant tell you what to do but I can make sure you know that it is an option and you do have the choice.
You may want to think about how you see your relationship with him moving forwards how would you like things to be in 12 months? How long do you think you could last with things being this way? Are there signs your boyfriend is willing to change?
Asking yourself these kinds of questions can help you to work out what you should do next. Maybe theyre the things you can talk through with someone you trust.
If you wanted to talk to one of our counsellors, theyre here for you and waiting for you to call or come and chat online. Dont forget you can also talk with other young people on our message boards, they may be able to share their own experiences of similar situations which could help you.
You could also check out the This Is Abuse website for more advice and information on abusive relationships.
Take care of yourself,
Sam
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