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I have a crush on someone and so does someone close to me...

Hi Sam! I have something to tell you. I have a crush on someone called A*** in my school and so does someone close to me. We had a argument with each other and now she doesn't like me anymore! I don't know what to do exsept just keep away from the girl who I had a argument with. Please answer.
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Hi there,

When you start to notice feeling attracted to other people, it’s natural to develop crushes on some people around you or in the media. This is a normal part of growing up because the hormones in your body are changing. Some crushes might only last a short time but others can last a lot longer. Sometimes it can be difficult to know what to do about those feelings and whether to tell the person you like how you feel.

That’s a decision that only you can make but it might be a good idea to think about what might happen if you do tell someone you like them.

Knowing that a friend also likes someone you have a crush on could be quite awkward for you and your friend. Being really honest with each other about how you feel might be a way to make sure your friendship will be ok.

It’s natural for friends to have arguments sometimes and it can be hard to know what to do to put things right. It could be a good idea to try talking to your friend as a way to start moving past the argument. Perhaps some other friends could help, if talking on your own feels difficult.

Our counsellors are always here to listen and support you about this or anything else that’s on your mind.

Take care,

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