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i dont know how

this boy i really like, likes me to but he's only told his friend and well i dont know how to actually tell him i like him?..
Ask Sam


Hi there,

It’s good to hear from you - I'm glad you’ve got in touch.

I hear from lots of people who like someone but are a bit unsure about the best way forward. You’ve done well to get in touch and I hope I can help.

Telling someone you like them can make people really nervous and can often feel like a big risk. So it's important to think about what is the best way to tell someone you like them.

Different people respond better to different things and it can also help to think about the sort of person you are. If you feel that you are confident it might be best to just come out and to tell him how you feel. If you decide to do this it can be good to have a friend to support you. Honesty is really important in a relationship so this can be good way to start things off.

Other people find that writing a letter or sending a message online can be a good way to tell someone. Doing this might mean that you feel less embarrassed and are able to express yourself clearly. If you write a letter or send a message, it’s important to think about the most important things to write. It's a good idea not to overwhelm them with a very long letter.

Talking to people around you and people like his friend can be a good way for you to work out what is the best way to tell him you like him. Your friend might have other suggestions that you feel are better.

I know that this is an issue that comes up often on the ChildLine message boards and there might be other young people on there who could give you some good advice and ideas.

It can feel like telling someone you like them takes a lot of courage. If you wanted to talk more about this you could get in touch with a ChildLine counsellor.

A ChildLine counsellor is someone you could talk over your feelings with. ChildLine counsellors don’t judge and would be able to keep what you say confidential.

You can get in touch with a ChildLine counsellor through our Talk section. You can email, log in for a 1-2-1 chat or call a counsellor on 0800 1111, free and without it showing up on any bills.

Take care,


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