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how to impress the girl I love.

Hi Sam ! I've recently met a girl and I think I'm in love with her. I want to ask you what to do to impress her ?
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Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to write to me, I can really sense how excited you feel about this girl and these new feelings that you are developing.

It’s a very difficult question to answer, how you impress somebody, because each and every one of us is a unique individual. We all like qualities in different people for different reasons. A person should always like you for the person you are. You don’t have to change anything about yourself.

A good place to start a relationship is from a friendship. This will help you get to know her more and the things that she likes and the things that she doesn’t. You may like to think about your own interests and hobbies and see if any of these match the things that she is interested in. It may be that you both like the same films, TV programmes or music. This can help to naturally start a conversation between you both.

It’s important to take some time to think about the feelings you have. Sometimes we can feel that we love somebody and these feelings can come on very suddenly, but that does not mean that you have to act suddenly. It’s okay to take your time and plan what you want to say. You talk about wanting to impress her, however friendships and relationships are two-way and this means that she will also need to attract you and make you feel happy. It’s a two-way thing.

You may also like to check out the message boards where young people support each other with the issues that matter to them, like relationships and friendships. There is also always a counsellor at ChildLine who will listen and support you.

Take care,

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