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Im 16 and I'm pregnant. I went to the doctors and they told me it was positive. Im really scared and I'm really worried what everyone will think of me. My mum and dad might kick me out when I tell them. The dad knows but he's not around anymore. I really don't know what to do. Please help me.
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Hi there,

Thanks for your message, I can hear that you are feeling quite alone with this and I’m glad that you have chosen to come and talk to me about this.

It's important to know that you have a choice in this pregnancy and you do have options. Some options are to continue with the pregnancy and keep the baby or have the baby adopted, or you could have a termination. There’s a lot more information about the options you have and support that’s available on a website called Brook. Your doctor would be able to give your more information about the options you have too.

Going through any of the options above can be a lot to cope with and lots of young people tell me that it helps to have some support. I can hear that you are worried about your mum's and dad's reaction and it may be that you choose not to tell them, however if you choose to have the baby they are going to realise that you are pregnant, as your body will start to change. It may be useful to think about how you could tell them if you choose to.

Some young people tell me that it is hard to know what to say when trying to tell your parents something like this and it can help to write it down first, then use that as prompts or give it to your parents to read. You might also find it useful to have someone you trust with you when you tell your parents so that they can support you.  

Whichever option you choose it might be that you feel your parents aren’t the best people to support you and so it might be useful to think about who else you have in your life who could support you, this may be a family member, a trusted adult like a teacher or your doctor may be able to put you in touch with a group or service that supports young people who are pregnant.

It sounds like you are feeling quite alone with this at the moment and I want you to know that ChildLine is here to support you whatever you choose to do. You can come and talk to our counsellors any time, they will listen to you and they won’t judge you, they are there to support you.

Take care

Sam

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