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Hi there,
It always makes sense to be cautious and try to keep yourself safe. A large age gap doesnt always mean theres a problem, but it depends entirely on the situation and thats something you need to judge for yourself. Not everyone is out to hurt you, but staying aware and alert can make it harder for someone to take advantage of you.
Its unusual for someone who is 60 to want to be friends with an 18 year old you are at two very different stages in your life. Often when someones a lot older then they might want something more from the relationship, like sex.
Not everyone is out to hurt you though and its entirely possible that he does just like you as a friend and there is nothing wrong with being friends with adults, so long as nothing inappropriate is happening.
Whats important though is that its not kept a secret. Telling people you trust, like your own family, is the best thing to do because theyll be able to help you to judge if this person is a threat or not. If someone wants you to keep a relationship secret, this might mean something is not right.
Its really important to think carefully about where and how you meet with this person. Although nothing has happened so far, that doesnt mean it cant change in the future. Being alone with him in his car, parked up is not a safe place to be you should think about meeting him in public, if youre going to do that.
Perhaps you can look at safer ways to meet him, like through a befriending service. Age UK might be a place to start.
As you are 18 that makes you an adult yourself, so nobody is breaking the law. It would be against the law for him to force or manipulate you into sex, but thats the same no matter how old people are.
Remember, you can get support by talking to our counsellors at any time.
I hope this helps, take care.
Sam
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