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i have a whatsapp account. i share a special whatsapp group with 2 other friends. just now I got to know they cut me out the group. i was really upset when I found out. afterwards I deleted the app in frustration. i don't know how to approach my friends on this topic. what should i do? (I'm so confused as to why they might of done this)
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Hi there,

It can be really upsetting and confusing to feel excluded or left out of a friendship group. It could make you feel really let down.

It might be a good idea to ask your friends about what happened. You said that you ‘got to know’ that they cut you out the group. Perhaps you could describe to them how that made you feel.

Telling someone how you feel doesn’t always change the situation, but it could make you feel more heard and understood.

You don’t have to do anything about this situation, but it’s important to think about how that might leave you feeling and whether it would affect your friendship moving forwards. 

It can be hard to know how to begin a difficult conversation with friends but the fact that you want to do that is a good start. It can help to be natural and honest about things. Let people know that you want to get things sorted out.

You’re always welcome to talk to a ChildLine counsellor about any of this at any time. Sometimes talking through your options with someone else can help you to think about what feels right for you.

Take care,

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