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Hi there,
It sounds like things have got a bit confused between you, your friend and your friends parents. It seems like you wrote a personal letter to your friend letting her know that you are there to support her and this has been seen by your friends parents. I can hear the things you wrote in the letter meant a lot to you and your friend - but it sounds like her parents understood it differently.
It can be really difficult when people not involved in a friendship or situation read something personal about it as they may not fully understand what the person writing the letter means. This can lead to people guessing what things mean and things can get confusing for everyone involved.
You tell me that your friend's parents put a lot of rules in place so you couldnt see each other. It sounds like that made it hard for the two of you be honest about your friendship. I can hear that you are worried about the two of you growing apart. It might be a good idea to talk to your friend about your worries and then you can decide how things are going to be together.
You said you are also going to talk to your friends parents again. Im wondering how you would feel about doing that together. Then you can all decide how you want things to be. It might also give you and your friend the chance to explain how important your friendship is.
It can sometimes be hard to know what to do and you might find it useful to have a look at the ChildLine message boards where you can get advice and support from other young people going through similar things.
You can always talk more about this with a ChildLine counsellor. You can call for free on 0800 1111 or log in for a 1-2-1 chat.
Take care.
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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