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First kiss

Me and my boyfriend have been going out 4 years. We both had our first kiss last monday and it was amazing!! But he has told him mum and dad, etc. but I don't know how to tell my mum and dad. I've only told my big sister who is 16. I'm 12 and he is 11, but 12 soon :D but how do i tell my mum and dad about both our first kiss?!?!?
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Hi there,

Thanks for getting in touch with me. It sounds like your first kiss was a really exciting time, but I can hear you’re confused about how to tell your parents so you’ve done the right thing getting in touch.

I wonder how it felt to tell your sister and whether you’d be able to tell your parents in the same way you told her.

It sounds as though you might have a good relationship with your sister so maybe you could speak to her first as she may have some good ideas for you about how to tell them. You might even be able to practice what you might say with your sister, too. 

Another idea would be to speak to your boyfriend. It sounds like you really care for him and you have been going out a long time. As he’s already told his parents, he might have some good advice for you on how to tell yours. 

Think carefully about when might be the best time to speak to your parents, for example, a time when they're relaxed or not busy doing other things.

If you want to talk some more about this, remember our counsellors are always here to listen. You can call on 0800 1111, log on for a 1-2-1 chat or send an email.

All the best and take care,

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