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Contraception implant

I am 14 years old and my boyfriend is 15 and we have always, without a doubt used contraception such as condoms, our parents know we have been having sex and they think that just as long as we're safe and protected we are permitted to have these relation due to our maturity and well understanding of the subject, but I've heard many horror stories of how couples have relied blindly on condoms and they have unfortunately spilt them or something equally as worrying. I'm starting to get paranoid and wary of this and I was wondering if there was an age restriction on the contraceptive implant? Also, if if I need to go alone, due to my many anxieties I find it absolutely terrifying to talk to people I don't know as I've been in and out of therapy for it for a long while. I really don't have a close relationship with my mother as if like to have, honestly and I was hoping to save from an awkward conversation with her. I was really wondering if I could go with an older friend, such as my older brother's girlfriend that I am very close to, that of which she is 18. Is there any advice you could possibly give us to this? Thank you.
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It’s good to hear that you and your boyfriend always use a condom. Condoms can protect you from sexual infections and diseases as well as helping to prevent pregnancy.

Contraception is really important if you don’t want to get pregnant. You shouldn’t have any problems being allowed to have the contraceptive implant. It’s free and you can get it even if you’re under 16. Nobody will be allowed to tell your parents that you’re having it done. You can read more about what it's like to see a doctor and what they can keep private.

Brook is an organisation specifically for young people and can support you in your choices around sexual health. They can explain a bit more about how the implant works and discuss any other types of contraception with you too in order to help you work out what feels best. They can also help you find your local sexual health clinic if you are worried about going to your family GP.

Brook has a service called ‘ask brook’ - that way you can text them or talk online if it’s easier than talking out loud.

It’s great to hear that you have a close and trusting relationship with your brother’s girlfriend. It sounds like you would feel more comfortable having her come with you and helping you to talk to the nurse or doctor  I can’t imagine there would be any problem taking a friend along with you.

It sounds like there has been a lot going on for you. You’ve been having therapy to support you with anxious feelings and you’re not feeling very close with your mum right now.

You’re always welcome to come and talk to a ChildLine counsellor about anything that’s going on for you. You can do that via 1-2-1 chat (like instant messenger) or call us free on 0800 1111.

I hope some of this helps.

Take care,

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