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dear sam, I don't really know what to write but id like to ask you, I'm 13 and Ive had sex. And I want to go to the clinic but I'm scared incase they want to know my age and will the contact  police, socials services ect?
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Hi there,

Thanks for your letter. It sounds like you're feeling scared to go to the clinic as you have had sex at the age of 13. I’m really glad that you have written to me to talk about this and that you have been thinking about going to your local clinic. Your local family planning clinic or Brook centre can be really good places to get help and advice about sex, contraception, sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.

I can hear that you’re scared the clinic might tell the police or social services. The law does say that you need to be 16 before you can choose to have sex, but this law is there to protect young people and not to get them in trouble. The police want to make sure adults aren’t taking advantage of young people and don’t usually use this against two young people who both want to have sex.

It’s completely natural for young people under the age of 16 to have relationships. If two people are about the same age, and if neither of them is putting pressure on the other to do something they don’t want to, the law won't usually be used against them. If you wanted to find out more about what the law says exactly, you can talk to the Children’s Legal Centre for free.

Places such as Brook also aim to keep your information private. You can read a bit more about their confidentiality policy on their website.

ChildLine’s message boards have a very useful area on sex and sexual health. This might be a good place to talk to other young people who have been in a similar position as you.

Remember that ChildLine counsellors are also there to support you if you ever need to talk. You can contact a ChildLine counsellor on 0800 1111 or via a 1-2-1 chat or email.

Take care,

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