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Hey sam, please reply
i'm 14 and i don't really have any hobbies. i want to learn to skateboard really bad, i watch skateboarding videos all the time but i'm afraid that people will laugh or stare at me, for being a girl and having a bad board or something. it's a male dominating sport and i want to do it, i'm just afraid to step outside and ride. what could i do to get over this?
Hi there,
If someone tells you that you cant be good at something just because of your gender, then theyre wrong. While there are definitely challenges when a particular sport or hobby is dominated by one particular sex, it doesnt mean you cant do it if you put your mind to it.
There are some sports, hobbies and jobs that people often see as being for one gender or another. Football is not just for boys and ballet is not just for girls hobbies like these have an image problem because they are dominated by one gender, and skateboarding is another good example. It doesnt need to be this way though.
If you want to skateboard then you should absolutely do it. I can tell its daunting for you because you feel like more eyes will be watching you and perhaps youre worried people are hoping you will fail. That may not actually turn out to be the truth. Even if youre right and people are staring at you, thats just more people whose mind you can change.
It takes a lot of courage to do something like this, but youll probably find that if you can do it with confidence then youll get respect from a lot of people. The way that you act can often define how others act towards you if you think and act like you shouldnt be skating then its easier for people to think that too.
Try imagining a few years from now, when you can look back at how youve spent your time. If you dont ever try skateboarding then youll never know what could have been. You may regret letting other peoples opinions hold you back.
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I hope that helps.
Sam
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