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Hi there,
Friendships can get tricky when theres a few people involved. It can feel like theres pressure to like everyone in the group. You might think a lot about who is speaking to who. It might even make you very anxious and worried that people are spending more time with each other than with you.
Friendships are natural things and the best ones usually just happen on their own without you needing to do very much. It can be tempting to try really hard to make someone a best friend, but often this can make things awkward. Best friends is just a word. The way you are with each other is what counts.
Its okay not to like this other girl as much as your best friend, but if they seem to like each other then it sounds important that you at least get along. This might take more effort than it would with someone who is a natural friend, but if it means everyone gets on better then its usually worth it. Maybe try and find something you have in common that you can talk about when youre together.
If you want to get closer with your friend then maybe you can arrange to do things that you enjoy together, to remind her why you are friends in the first place.
I hope that helps, but do come and talk to one of our counsellors if you need to. You can call on 0800 1111, send an email or log on for a 1-2-1 chat.
Take care,
Sam
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