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Hi there,
Although technology can be great at keeping in touch with people, it can also be an easy way to hide from talking to people in real life. Sometimes it can become a cycle where we shut ourselves away too much and it makes it harder to be around others so we isolate ourselves even more. Breaking out of that cycle is hard, but definitely possible.
Some people are whats called introverted. This just means they prefer being alone more than being around others. It doesnt make them weird and it doesnt mean they hate people, it just means they dont feel the need to be around them all the time and thats okay.
Even introverts need to be around people sometimes for their own wellbeing but also because were forced by school or work. Whether youre an introvert or not, recognising when you need to spend some time with friends and stop isolating yourself is really important.
Phones and laptops make it really easy to spend hours and hours by yourself but wanting things to change is a good first step. It might help to remind yourself of the good things about socialising with people the memories we make, making new friends, the fun we can have and relationships we build up.
You could try something completely new a sport youve never tried or a hobby you can share with friends. Something as simple as organising to go out somewhere can be good to get you back into the habit of socialising. When you want to be around people, technology will be less appealing.
Remember that were all different, and its okay to spend time by yourself. Its when you feel its becoming a problem that you need to start thinking about changing things. Youve done that and its been great to get your letter as I know this is a problem lots of people struggle with.
If you'd like to talk to someone, remember you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor.
Take care,
Sam
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