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Hi,
Nobody has the right to touch you or make you touch them if you dont want to. This includes a boyfriend or girlfriend. Being forced to do anything sexual that you dont want to do is sexual abuse.
If someone is being pressured to have sex when they dont want to, it's never their fault. Your friend hasnt done anything wrong.
You could perhaps show her the This is Abuse website, which has information on relationship abuse. There is also information on our relationships page. It's very common for people to not realise that they may be in an abusive relationship. Its not their fault, and its sometimes difficult to help them if they dont think they need the help.
You and your friend could also join our relationships and sexual abuse message boards to talk to other young people about what's going on.
It can be really hard to tell other people about abuse, so its good that your friend feels able to talk to you. You can get more ideas about how to support your friend or suggest that she speaks to a ChildLine counsellor about what is happening. Please remember that if you feel upset or worried by anything that she has told you about you can also speak to a counsellor yourself.
Take care,
Sam
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