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16 and wanting a baby

hey im 16, i am currently waiting for my GCSE Results and might be starting work in september ( doing a apprenticeship)

i know im still so young but i really want a baby, i know taking care of a baby is not easy, far from it but i dont mind and i really enjoy doing so.. i know people may think "you say that now but when you have ur child its different" well i baby sit every weekend a 4 yr old and a 1 yr old" and i love it

i know i know im not finacially stable and all but i'd work hard to provide for my child

im not saying im going to get pregnant on purpose coz dats just amazingly stupid but if i were to get pregnant then i'd be more than happy to look after my child.

people saying having a baby causes you to have no freedom no privacy no teenage more to myself. more about my family.

i really want a baby but i want to wait. but at the same time i feel that i cant.. help?

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Thank you for sending your letter to me. It sounds like you have put quite a lot of thought into what would be involved in looking after a baby and also how you would feel about this. Although it is your choice, whether or not to have a baby, we would encourage you to carry on thinking about what is involved in bringing up a baby and how much of a long-term commitment it is.

From what you have said it sounds like you seem happy with the idea of having a baby, although for some people the reality of having a baby can be quite different.  Perhaps you can make a list of all the things you would like to do over the next few years in your life and then think about how bringing up a child would impact on these.

We would encourage you to come and have a 1-2-1 online chat with one of the counsellors at ChildLine about this so that you can talk through what options might be available to you. You can contact us by giving us a ring on 0800 1111, requesting a 1-2-1 chat through the website or sending us an e-mail.

Take care,


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