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15 and pregnant

hi i am 15 years old 16 in october and i am pregnant i would really love to keep it and so would my boyfriend i am scared to tell my mom just incase she freaks out i dont know what to say to her any ideas?

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Hi there,

Everyone will react differently to news that they are pregnant - for some it might be good news, for others it may not be. The people who look after you will usually want what's best for you. Your mom might want to be realistic when it comes to what to do next, which can sometimes come across negatively.

Only you can decide what you want to do with your body, and if you make a decision, you'll need to be confident enough to stand by it.

Telling someone like your mum about being pregnant is possibly one of the biggest conversations you might have, so it's important to be prepared for it. Try to think about what you would want mum to say - as well as what you hope she doesn't. Looking at all possible ways that conversation might go can help you to think about what you might say and how you might feel ahead of time.

Pregnancy is something you can't keep a secret forever - there is a time limit on when you tell her about this and it's probably going to be better to tell her than have her find out by accident. The sooner you do this, the better it will be as there will be more time to adjust and talk about your options. If you don't know how to tell her then you can try writing out what you want to say first as this helps to get things straight in your head.

If you want to practice talking about it then Childline can help you do that - just give us a call on 0800 1111 or use our 1-2-1 counsellor chat and one of our counsellors will talk it through with you.

I hope this helps, thanks for your letter.


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