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Hi A,
Thanks for your letter. Im really pleased youve been able to talk to the important people in your life about being pregnant. It takes a lot of courage to do something you think might be scary.
Its great to hear your boyfriend is being supportive. It sounds like he really cares about you. Your parents sound like they want what they think is best for you too, but that might not be the same as what you want. Being pregnant can seem scary, but it's really good that you've already started to talk about your options.
Your mum is doing the right thing by taking you to see a doctor. No matter what you decide to do, its important that youre properly looked after. A doctor can talk to you about the different options you have - but they cant make you choose what to do.
Your parents cant make this choice for you either, even though theyre still responsible for looking after you. You are the only person who can decide whether to carry on with the pregnancy or not.
Deciding if to have a child at your age could be tough. Whats important is that you feel able to talk to people who can give you the best information possible to make that choice. We have more information on our pregnancy page - having a look at that could be really useful for you. It could also help to talk to someone who isn't directly involved in your situation - this could give you a clear idea of your options.
You will need to think about your feelings about abortion. But you may also need to think about whether you will feel able to give up a baby if you have it. If you do keep going with the pregnancy, but dont want to give the baby up for adoption, how will you manage? If you do what your parents want, how will you feel afterwards? All these things need talking about.
You could always talk to a ChildLine counsellor who will listen to you and offer support without judging you. Its confidential and you can choose how to contact us - you can call on 0800 1111, have an online 1-2-1 chat or send an email.
We have more information about pregnancy, adoption and abortion which may be useful for you.
Another place to get advice and support is Brook. There should be a Brook or other young persons clinic in your area where you could go to get free, confidential advice.
You can also get in touch with them by text, phone, email or online chat.
I hope this helps.
Take care,
Sam
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