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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who've had similar problems to you. 

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latest letters

Moving in to secondary school

Hi, I am moving into secondary school next year and im a bit scared because now im the highest in the school but then...

My Crush

Hey sam, you see i have a crush on this boy at school. my friends dont really like him though. i dont know what to do...

17 and getting kicked out

I live with my mum and dad but there getting fed up of everything I do and they asked me to find my own place ?who sh...

Relationship Trouble

Hi Sam, I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and it's not as good as it was before, and we hardly see each oth...

I think I love my Therapist?

Um ever since I was 11 I have had really messy relationships. I started seeing my first psychologist about a year ago...

Masturbation

Hi Sam, I'm a girl and around when I was seven I started masturbating but I didn't know what I was doing. now I do it...

Next week

It can be hard to talk about difficult feelings and emotions. Opening up can be a challenge - especially if people around you make it sound like a weakness. I know that boys can sometimes struggle with this, but I'd like to hear from anyone who's holding in difficult feelings and finding it hard to get the support they need.

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My Crush

Hey sam, you see i have a crush on this boy at school. my friends dont really like him though. i dont know what to do...

Relationship Trouble

Hi Sam, I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and it's not as good as it was before, and we hardly see each oth...

Dating faculty?

Hello, I am an A level student, once I turn 18 am I allowed to hang out with staff outside school? And if I were to w...

Friend Relationship

Hi, I'm worried that my friend likes me as she has mentioned before that she likes both genders. Also she likes to ha...

Getting contraception

i am 15 years old, not too far away from turning 16 and the boy I am seeing is 16. I am not yet sexually active howev...

Weird feelings about my rapist

So I'm 15 and I was assaulted just over a year ago and weirdly, I feel quite neutral about the incident. Although whe...

Getting over a breakup

Hi sam, A couple of years ago I got into a relationship with who I believed to be the love of my life, my soulmate. W...

Can I go on the pill?

I'm a girl that's 15 years of age. Last year I lost my virginity to my boyfriend (at the time) and since we have brok...

Lied about my age

i'm 16 and i met a guy online and told him I was 18 and he is 19. At first i didn't think it was a big deal because i...

My addiction to pornography.

Hi Sam, About three quarters of a year ago, I was on Instagram and I was scrolling through my feed and found that one...

Having the implant

Hi, I am thinking about having the implant done,I wanted to ask would you tell my parents as I am 14?

it okay

dear sam, I have just found out my boyfriend is gay I don't know how to tell him that im okay with it and I will move...

Sex

Hi, I am a 14 year old girl who has had sex. I had sex a couple of weeks ago and I think I'm pregnan. My question is ...

Sexual abuse in relationships

I was pressured into doing things i didn't want to do with my now ex boyfriend. I tried telling him I didn't want to ...

internet friends

Hi Sam, I am writing to ask you if it is okay to have internet friend. I have over fifty Internet friends that I talk...

Turning 16 first

I'm a girl and for a few months now, I have been having sex with a boy in my year. We aren't actually boyfriend and g...

Relationships

Sam, there's a boy who I was seeing for 5 months but we aren't together anymore due to complications and that he isn'...

Boys

Hi SAM, my name is **** and I have a massive problem with some boys. My ex, lets call him Danny, and another boy, let...

sexual harassment

hi, im a 16 year old girl and recently one of my families friends has been making me feel uncomofortable. i went to t...

Boyfriends

Hi my name is liz and im confuseibecause over the summer i went to a summer club and meet a boy that i knew from like...