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There's this website online called moviestarplanet and my friends told me to join it because they wanted to chat to me online. At first I said no, like really forcefully because I really didn't want to, but over time I gradualy began to weaken and I said Yes, which was really stupid of me.
I went on it and this person asked me to be their girlfriend. I didn't say anything at first, but they guy kept sending me girlfriend requests (on there you can add people as your boyfriend or girlfriend0 and then finally I added him because I didn't know what I could do to stop him because every time I deleted the request, it would come back again. He messaged me privately telling me to 'go to his house' because we have houses on there. Then he said some really gross and horrible things to me about things I'm not really meant to know (like sex and whatnot). I was really scared because he wouldn't go away. He also asked me if I was having my periods. I made a fake answer that was sort of vagueish. The site's meant for 8-15yr olds, but seriously, I think that guy was 18+ or something.
I told my friends and they said that 'yeah it's happened to us too but you have to get over it'. I was really annoyed and freaked out.
There was actually a moderating thingy but it didn't work, because people used symbols or mispelt the words on puprose but everyone got what they meant.
It's kinda freaking me out, cos it's happened loads of times after that too. I'm really scared because of that........
Ask Sam


Hi there,

Thank you for sending your letter to me and I’m concerned to hear about what is happening to you on this website. What this person is doing to you is wrong (and is a form of online sexual abuse) as nobody has the right to say things like this to you. I can hear that his behaviour is leaving you feeling really stressed but the good news is there are things you can do about it. Firstly, it is important that you keep a record of any messages that he sends you as this can be used as evidence of what is going on. I would also encourage you to stop responding to the messages he is sending you. Things like this can make us uncomfortable and sometimes afraid and it is important to know that you are not alone and that you have not done anything wrong.

It sounds like you have already tried reporting him to the moderators on the site but this does not seem to have helped.  If you feel the moderators on the website are not doing enough to support you then you can get in touch with an organization called CEOP. CEOP provide general information about how to stay safe online and also give you the opportunity to report what is going on. I appreciate this can be a really difficult situation to be in and I would encourage you to come through and talk to ChildLine about what is going on; you can do this by giving us a ring on 0800 1111, requesting a 1-2-1 chat through the website or sending us an e-mail.

Take care,


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