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Hello, well I thought I'd give this a try because I don't know what else to do. I need to speak to someone. I'm being bullied by the girl I used to call my bestfriend she walks past me telling me im ugly, a rat and says spew when she walks past me. If I'm with her friends she asked me why I'm there because no one likes me! She has made up so many lies about me, saying I call people names behind there back so that turned all my friends against me and dinner time I just sit in the corner alone:( she always has a go at me and I feel so alone because her and her friends croud me! She pushes me in the corridor. Steals my glasses and runs away with them so I can't see, her and all her friends just laugh I want to tell a teacher but I don't know what to say:( please help?x
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Hi,

Thanks for your letter. I’m really glad that you decided to tell me about what’s been going on. It sounds like your old ‘best friend’ has really let you down. What she’s doing is bullying and it’s very wrong of her.

It sounds like this change in your friend has been a really big loss for you. I can hear that you’ve been particularly lonely at dinner times recently. Feeling this way is a very difficult thing to be dealing with on your own. You might want to think about looking out for a lunch club or after school club that you think you might enjoy. This would help give you some company at lunch time, and it might also give you a chance to meet some new friends.

You have a right to feel safe and happy at school. Your school also has a responsibility to take any kind of bullying seriously. You’ve told me that you’d like to tell the teacher about the bullying, but you’re not sure what to say. I guess one way to tell the teacher could be to give them a letter like this one. This letter you’ve written for me describes things very clearly. Something else you could try is keeping a bullying diary. In the diary you would write down what happens, when it happens, who does it and how it makes you feel. You could show the diary to your teacher, and that way the teacher would get a really clear picture of the bullying and how it’s affecting you.

You haven’t told me much about how the bullying has made you feel, but you’ve called your letter “suicidal”. It worries me that you might be feeling that way. When someone is being bullied it can really affect their confidence and self esteem. Sometimes when someone says mean or nasty things over and over to someone it can make that person wonder whether what those things could be true, even though they are not. Talking about what’s happening and getting some support can help you to get some confidence back again. You might also find it useful to read the Explore pages on coping with suicidal thoughts and Building Confidence and Self-esteem.

You might want to think about talking to one of the counsellors at ChildLine. They are there to support you. You can contact ChildLine by calling free on 0800 1111 (even from a mobile) or by logging on for a 1-2-1 chat. You could even send the counsellors an email. Lots of young people who are suffering from Bullying contact ChildLine everyday and you can get some peer support from them via our message boards.

Take care,

Sam

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