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Hi, I don't really know what to say or how this works but on FB there in this guy I know who sends me sexual messages.

I have asked him to stop but he won't. I have tried to ignore it but I don't want him to move onto someone else and for them to suffer too.

I don't to alert the school (he is from my school) because I don't want to make a big deal out of it.

What should I do?

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Thank you for your letter. I'm really glad you chose to write in about what's happening.

You’ve said this guy is sending you sexual messages through Facebook, even though you have asked him to stop. I can imagine it feels frightening and even intrusive to be receiving unwanted messages like these. This is not something you should have to put up with. You have the right to enjoy using Facebook without being harassed like this.

What he is doing is wrong and abusive. It’s not okay for anyone to keep sending you messages that make you feel uncomfortable. I can hear you’ve tried ignoring it but he still continues to do this. You’ve said you don’t want to alert your school but it also sounds like you feel worried about him moving onto someone else. From what you’ve said, it seems that you’re a bit unsure about what to do for the best.

It’s difficult to know if this is something this guy will do to other people, but it sounds like he needs someone to tell him that this behaviour is not okay. What is happening is serious and you have every right to get support with this. It can be a good idea to think about who in your life you would feel comfortable talking to. This might be a teacher or someone at home. Remember that you are not doing anything wrong and you don’t deserve to be going through this.

Check out our page on sexting. We also have information about how to block people on Facebook and stop abuse on different social networks. Think U Know is another website that offers information on how to stay safe and report online behaviour that worries or upsets you.

This isn’t something you have to cope with alone. You can talk about this some more with a ChildLine counsellor by calling 0800 1111 (free from any phone) logging on for a 1-2-1 chat, or by emailing.

I think you’ve been really brave to speak out about this here.

Hope this letter has been helpful.

Take care,


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