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I don't really know how you do this letter thing but I'm gonna try anyway .. Theres all these people at school who are just damright cruel and horrible to me im s mixed race girl and the people who are bullying me are white and I don't know what to do they throw onions at me saying that's what your people eat and flick rubber bands at my face and call me rasict names idk what to do / they are in a higher year than me and I'm too afraid to stand up to them because what if it makes it worse my friend say give them a taste of their own medicine but that makes me just the same as them. Is there a solution ??

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Hi there,

Racial bullying is when people are bullied because of their race, the colour of their skin, where they are from or what they believe in. It’s not okay for anyone to make racist or negative comments or to hurt you. It’s a type of racism and it’s illegal.

Being bullied for any reason can make people feel lonely and sad. It sometimes makes you feel like you don’t want to go to school. I want you to know that what’s happening isn’t your fault.

Nobody deserves to be hurt and made to feel bad. Your school have a legal responsibility to take bullying seriously and to protect you from being hurt. There are lots of things they can do but they need to know about it first.

Telling someone at school about being bullied can feel really scary. Sometimes people worry about what the bullies will do or how other people might react. But it also means that you can get support to make it stop.

It can be hard speaking to an adult about what’s going on and how its making you feel. It can help to prepare what to say in advance. It can be a good idea as well to have evidence of what’s been happening. This can include a bullying diary, which includes what people have said or done, the date and time and what you did afterwards.

If you’re not ready to talk to someone you know you can talk to one of our counsellors. They’re here to listen and support you. You can also post on the message boards to get advice from other young people.

Take care,


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