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I've been called many names this year and it's really upsetting me! I have been picked on my spots & my hair and I just come home from school crying. people have been avoiding me as much as possible and I just feel invisible. I just feel so lost and insecure about myself lately. and I have been getting suicidle thoughts.

What have I don't to upset others?

What should I do to get help? :(

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Hi there,

Bullying can be really painful and nobody has the right to do it. It’s not your fault that other people have been treating you in this way. Everyone deserves respect. 

You asked what you’ve done to upset others and I get the impression that you’re blaming yourself. How people are behaving is their responsibility and reflects on them, not you. Even though people who bully often try and make the other person feel like it’s their fault. 

You haven’t done anything wrong and you deserve help with the bullying. Think about which adults in your life you trust the most and who you might feel able to tell about the bullying. This might be someone you live with or someone who works at school.

If you don’t feel ready to speak to someone about this, it could help to start writing down everything that’s been happening. Keeping a record of all the bullying means that you can show it to someone when it’s the right time for you. This way, they’ll be able to see everything that’s been happening. 

 It’s a good idea to include:
• the date and time when something happened
• where it happened
• what happened (use their exact words or write down exactly what they did)
• who was involved and who else saw
• how it made you feel.

I’m concerned to hear that you’ve been feeling suicidal because of how upset the bullying is making you feel. It’s really important to share these thoughts with someone you trust so that you can have support with keeping safe. And so that you can start to feel better. If you ever feel as though you might act on the suicidal thoughts, it's important to get support. Things can get better and you don't have to cope on your own. If you’re not sure about speaking to someone else, ChildLine counsellors are always there to support you too.

Take care,

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