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please help me...

i get bullied really badly and abused by my mum. she is the only family i know and dont want to have to go anywhere from her. i know it sounds sad but even tho she hits me all the time really badly and locks me up she is still my mum and the only family i have.

anyway... bullying... i get bullied alot because i get scared of things easily thanks to abuse from others. i get bullied really badly like being pushed against walls and kicked and punched. its got to the fact i have actually started abusing myself(sounds stupid i know) but i am getting scared of everything at the minute and really need some help. i dont want to speak to the teachers at my school because they will find out about my mum and involve social services and take me away from home. please help me!

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Hi there,

I’m really glad you have written to me. You’ve been so brave to talk about what is happening to you.

I’m really concerned that your mum is abusing you and that you are being hit all the time and locked up. It sounds really hard for you because she is the only family you have and I understand that you don’t want to go anywhere else. It seems as if the thought of being taken away from home is putting you off telling anyone.

If someone in your family is abusing you, it is the right thing to do to tell someone so that you can get some help. What your mum is doing is wrong and you have the right to feel safe in your own home. Just so you know, Social Services are there to keep you safe but they do what they can to keep families together and to help families work things out if it is possible.

It is also very wrong of the bullies to be physically abusing you at school. No one has the right to treat you this way. If you could tell the school about the bullying, they have a duty to keep you safe. This would mean finding ways to stop the bullying at school and helping you to get support with life at home.

I can hear it’s got to the point for you where you are abusing yourself. You don’t sound stupid, it sounds as if this is really getting to you and I can hear that harming yourself feels like the only way of coping right now. I want you to know that you are not to blame for what is happening for you. There is some advice and information in Explore about Self-harm that you might find it helpful to read through.

I can see that all of this is making you feel scared. I'm wondering how would you feel about contacting a Childline counsellor to talk through what you are going through and to think about how you can get help? The counsellors will talk to you confidentially, and you can contact them by calling 0800 1111, or by logging on for a 1-2-1 chat or you can send an email. Remember that you don't have to go through this alone.

Take care,


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