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Physical and verbal abuse

My dad constantly the threats to beat me up or harm me in a horrble way sometimes he does hit me or throws something at me he only does it when my mum is away but when I tell her she doesn't believe me what should I do
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Hi there,

Thanks for your letter. You’ve been really brave writing in to me with everything that’s been going on for you at home. You have taken an important first step in writing this letter to me.

I’m really concerned about what you’re saying about the way your dad treats you. He can be threatening and sometimes hits you or throws things at you.  What your dad is doing is classed as physical abuse and I want you to know that it’s wrong that your dad is doing this – your parents should be keeping you safe from harm. You might find our page about Physical abuse helpful.

It’s really good that you’ve tried to tell your mum but I can hear how difficult it is for you when she doesn’t believe you. It could help to think about a different way to tell your mum. Perhaps there’s another trusted adult in your life you could talk to, maybe a family member, family friend or a teacher. Learn more about asking an adult for help.

You might not be sure who you could talk to or what you want to do about this just yet and that’s okay. It might be helpful to talk this through with one the counsellors at ChildLine. You can ring for free on 0800 1111, log on for a 1-2-1 chat or send an email. Remember that the counsellors are there to listen to you and to support you.

Take care


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