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Hi there,
Theres really no such thing as a normal vagina. They can be so different from person to person that there isnt one way theyre supposed to look.
Its quite normal to feel anxious about what other people might think of the private areas of our body. These are places that very few people get to see and so a lot of anxiety can build up about how someone could react to the way our privates look.
This anxiety can also come from general nerves about sex and doing things that you might not have done before. Its so important that you dont rush yourself into a situation where you feel exposed, as you probably wont feel comfortable at all.
Knowing when youre ready to have sex isnt just about age, but its also about how comfortable you feel with your body and finding the right person to share the experience with. You sound really self-conscious about your vagina, so you may want to put those worries to rest before doing anything sexual with a partner.
Brook have a really good page about vaginas that you may find helpful to read and you can always talk to someone like your doctor if you still feel worried.
I hope that helps.
Take care,
Sam
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