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Thanks for your letter. Seeing a friend being hurt is never an easy experience. It shows just how much you care when you do talk about wanting the best for him. Youve done the right thing by writing to me.
Its never okay for anyone to grab your friends arm and shout at him in a way that leaves him feeling like that, especially not his dad. Its always important to take it seriously when someone is being hurt. If youre not sure what to do, a good place to start can be to imagine how you would feel if youd gone through a difficult experience and how you would want others to react.
Its also important to remember what your friend wants when it comes to decisions about his life. This doesnt mean that you cant tell anyone if youre worried about him, but its important that youre always listening and asking what your friend wants when youre thinking about how to support him.
Theres some useful advice on our page about helping a friend that would be good to look through. You could also have a read of our physical abuse page.
You might also want to think about asking an adult for help. It can help to tell your friend that you are worried about him before you do talk to someone. This could help him to see that whats happening is serious.
When I read your letter I was wondering what all of this was like for you. It can be a massive shock to see a friend go through something like that and its important to remember that how youre feeling is always important too.
You can contact a counsellor at ChildLine to get support yourself in whichever way you feel most comfortable. You can have an online chat, send an email or even call for free on 0800 1111.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.