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I think I'm being bullied

I have fallen out with some popular girls at my school and they have been spreading rumours about me and rang me to call me an ugly whore and a bitch, but I haven't actually done anything. I don't want to tell anyone because I'm 12 and I don't want everyone to think I'm a telltale. They sent me so much hate on that I had to disable my account and now even my closest friends are saying I was obsessed with them. I don't know if this is bullying or if its hate and I deserved it. Help!
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Thank you for your letter, I am really glad you took the courage to write in and share what you are going through right now.

You’ve told me you have fallen out with some popular girls at school and since then, it sounds like they have been doing some really hurtful things. You mentioned they’ve been spreading rumours about you and calling you horrible names. No matter what the fall out has been about, it is never right for anyone to do this or to make you feel this way.

What you have described is bullying and it needs to stop. I want to let you know that you do not deserve what is happening to you. I can hear you are worried about what people might think of you if you were to tell someone. It’s important to remember that you are not doing anything wrong and to know this is not something you have to go through on your own.

It sounds like it was so upsetting to be sent so much hate on ‘’ and you did the right thing to disable your account and protect yourself from further abuse on there. It looks like there is no formal way of reporting abusive comments directly to (although it does allow you to block individual users) which means it can be hard to stop bullying from happening. I would always suggest you think very carefully before using sites that let people send you anonymous messages. For more information about staying safe online, you could check out the Cyberbullying page in Explore, or look at the ThinkUKnow website. You’ve talked about these girls calling you as well, so you might also want to read the advice on the mobile safety pages in Explore.

You mentioned that now even your closest friends are saying you were obsessed with them, and I can imagine it might feel like no one understands how you feel at the moment. It can be hard to keep this all inside and it’s important you for you to know you are not alone. Asking for support with this does not make you a “tell tale” – it’s the right thing to do.

I would encourage you to contact a ChildLine counsellor for further support. You can do this by calling 0800 1111 (free from any phone), 1-2-1 online chat or by sending an email.

ChildLine message boards. The ChildLine message boards are a safe space where other young people have shared their experiences, but also what they have found helpful. It can be good to think if there is anyone in your life that you feel you could trust to talk to about this… this could be someone at home, or even a teacher at school.

It takes a lot of courage to share how you feel, so well done for reaching out for support.

Hope this letter has been helpful.

Take care,


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