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I feel very left out

My family are always leaving me out of conversations and say it's because she has more potentail(sorry if i spelt that wrong)
It is very hard for me right now because i today(11th of febuary 2014)feel like a ghost,i would really like advice before i start becoming anti-social and always be in my room.
Please help me before my room becomes my world,and my sister is getting girly nights and i'm not getting my choice of night,it's sooooo unfair i will talk to my best friend at school and try to carry on for those 7 days(probly useful to know this has been going on for 1 year and i have nearly lost it.
your's sincerly T.G
P.S try get this answered fast and please give me as many tips as posible
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Hi there,

Thank you for contacting me to talk about how you are feeling right now. I can hear that things are really difficult. You have done the right thing to get in touch as we really want to support you.

From what you say, things are difficult at home and you feel like you are being left out by your family. This is wrong. It shouldn’t be happening and it isn’t your fault. The first step to improving relationships is to talk to your parents and let them know how you are feeling right now. 

I know it can sometimes be difficult to know what to say and it might be helpful to write down a few points to help you focus on what is important to you. It may also be helpful to look through some posts on the message boards to find out what other young people in similar situations have done.

It sounds like you are now spending lots of time on your own and feel lonely. I want you to know that it’s completely normal to want some attention from your family. When things at home change it can be difficult to find the right way to get involved in conversations and to feel included in what goes on.

Perhaps you could explore some ideas for ways of doing that with a ChildLine counsellor by calling 0800 1111, having a 1-2-1 chat or sending an email.
You might also want to look at our feelings of loneliness page to help you think about the steps you can take to feel better about your situation.

You did really well to explain how you feel and I hope that you sort things out with your family soon.

Take care,


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