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i dont know what to do?

Someone I used to be friends with says she has bulimia, social anxiety, and severe bipolar disorder but ive been looking up symptoms and she is not showing anything I've talked to my parents but they don't really understand, I can't sleep at night I'm physically sick with worry and I'm scared. She sends me pictures of her cuts and now that I've fallen out with her she is being really mean, turning all my friends against me, saying that I'm "putting the rope around her neck, that I'm putting the gun to her head and the pills in her hand" she's blaming me for everything and I don't know what to do, it's the Christmas holidays and I'm terrified for going back to school, pleas tell me what to do? Now I'm starting to feel really sad
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Sam

Hi there,

I’m really pleased you’ve written in to me as it sounds like you’re really worried and confused about what’s happened with your friend.

I can hear that you’ve tried to be a caring and supportive friend and have ended up being so worried that your own well-being is suffering. I’m concerned about that and it sounds like you could do with some help and support with how you’re feeling and the fact that you're having trouble sleeping. 

You’ve said that this girl has been really mean since you fell out, turning your friends away from you and saying things to make you feel that you’re responsible for anything she does. It’s wrong that she’s doing and saying these things. You are not responsible for whatever she chooses to do. 

I can hear you’re worried about going back at school and how things are going to be. I want you to know that it’s okay to ask for help and support with this. It sounds like you’ve tried talking to your parents about your worries about your friend. But I’m not sure from what you’ve said if you’ve told them about what’s happened since. I’m also wondering if there’s a member of staff at school that you feel you could talk to about what’s happening. This could be a great way of getting some support. Talking to a member of staff could also help this girl get some support with what she’s going through too.

You’ve done the right thing writing in to me and it sounds like you could really do with some extra help and support for what’s happening and how it’s affecting you. It might really help to talk this through with one of the counsellors at ChildLine. I know they would want to help and support you with how she’s making you feel right now. You can ring a ChildLine counsellor on 0800 1111 (calls are free and won’t show up on bills), log on for a 1-2-1 chat or send an email.

Take care,

Sam

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