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I can't forget what she said :'(

Hi Sam

There is a girl who is incredibly mean to me.

She has said things like "everyone wants you to kill yourself" and just go die"  etc.

She also says things like "you have no friends" & "you're a stupid geek who needs to get a life.

She has said the death threats more than six - eight times in the past month. I am so unhappy and the words have stopped but no doubt she will say these sorts of things again.

I have nightmares of her drowning me and pushing me in front of a train. I am scared for my life.

Is this bullying?

I need help and advice what do I do??????

Thankyou

Z :(

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Hi Z,

Thanks for your letter. It’s never, ever okay for anyone to say things like this to you. I’m glad that you’re talking about it here.

Whenever someone does something in order to try and make you feel bad that is bullying. It’s wrong and it's never your fault. It can happen to anyone at all different ages and can come in lots of different forms. When you doubt yourself about whether something is bullying it can be really helpful to read the Childline pages on bullying.

It can be scary and worrying when someone threatens you like this and it’s natural you wouldn’t be sure what you should do. You’re never doing anything wrong by asking an adult for help when you’re not sure what to do.

It’s important to remember that you shouldn’t have to go through this alone. There are lots of different ways that you can get support. It’s always good to keep in mind that talking to someone doesn’t always stop things straight away. It can help to imagine getting support as part of a journey to making things better. Even if it doesn’t change things completely at first it’s always okay to keep on asking for that support.

It can be scary thinking about what might happen next. Lots of young people have been bullied and talk to ChildLine about how to get support. There’s a message board section specifically for bullying where you can share your experiences and see what other young people have done before.

Keeping a bullying diary can help you to keep a record of everything that’s happened as proof. This can also be a way of letting out your feelings. Sometimes doing the same thing for the nightmares can help as well. Writing them down (or even drawing them) can help you sleep.

No matter what’s happening you can always talk to Childline. You might find it really helpful to talk through with a counsellor how things have been with this girl and even what it’s been like having the nightmares. You can call on 0800 1111, or you can send an email or log on for a 1-2-1 chat.

Take care,
Sam

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