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help please?

i go to this place where people with disabilaties go to a play area and there is this girl who realy annoys everyone there. she is now puting finger/s up (in a rude way) at me and slaps me. that is what she does to everyone in the place. what should i do?
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Hi there,  

It’s never okay for anyone to deliberately hurt or injure another person. It's wrong for someone to slap, hit, punch, push or kick. It might seem like the person has reasons for what they’re doing or the person may say to you that they have reasons. But none of those reasons are acceptable, as no one has the right to hurt someone else. 

It's important for you to know that this girl should not be treating in the way that you have described. The way that the girl is treating you is bullying, and bullying is always wrong. You deserve to be able to use the play area in a happy and comfortable way.

I hear that the girl treats everyone in a rude way. Sometimes, when we see or hear something happening a lot, it can feel like it’s a part of normal life. This can make it hard to understand that what‘s happening is wrong and to know what to do about it.

I’m not sure if you’ve told an adult about what’s been happening. Speaking to an adult about bullying can help to make things better for you. Also, speaking to an adult can help so that you do not have to go through things alone. And remember, our counsellors are always here to support you and you are welcome to get in touch anytime to talk about this and how its making you feel.

I hope this helps.


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