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Hello there,
Thanks for your letter. It sounds like really want to dye your hair but youre worried how this could affect your relationship with your mum.
Although theres no minimum age when you're allowed to dye your hair. But it sounds like you are living with mum and that shes got parental responsibility for you - that means that she still gets to have a say in what she thinks you should and shouldnt be doing, even if that feels unfair sometimes.
It's also worth remembering, theres always a slight risk of an allergic reaction with the chemicals in hair dye, so its a good idea to have some adult supervision if youre dying your hair at home. If you went to have your hair dyed at a hairdressers salon, they might ask for written parental consent because youre under 18.
Perhaps you can talk with your mum about whats particularly worrying her about you dying your hair? If shes concerned what your school thinks, maybe you can get a teacher or another staff member in school to talk with your mum. Or you could see if your school has a written policy about dying your hair?
Youve said that youre not too bothered when you dye your hair. If mum is still really against you doing it before youre 18, youve got to decide whether going ahead and doing it anyway is worth the possible consequences. You will know best how that is likely to affect your relationship with your mum, so only you can decide what seems like the right thing to do. If it would help to talk your options through in confidence, remember you can always call a ChildLine counsellor on 0800 1111, or you can log in for a 1-2-1 chat. You might also like to ask for other young peoples suggestions by posting a message on the message boards.
Take care,
Sam
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