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Girls bullying online

Dear Sam,

I went back to school this week and other girls have gone back .to bullying me already. I had a slight break over Christmas, but its all starred up again now. They always bully me in school but i told a teacher and everyone called me a snitch and wimp and stupid. but they stopped, but then theyve started bullying me online. I tried blocking one of them, but they told everyone else and everyone was insulting me. Ive told my parents and they spoke to school, but nothings really been done.

Whwt can i do?

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Hi there,

Bullying can happen to anyone at any time. But nobody has the right to hurt you or make you feel bad about yourself. No matter what the reason, bullying isn’t okay and it’s not your fault.

You were very brave to tell your teachers and parents about the bullying, this doesn't make you a snitch at all, and you did the right thing. Telling an adult you trust can feel difficult sometimes. It can be even more difficult when you’ve told them before and things haven’t changed. One of the hardest parts of bullying is that it can take time for things to start to get better, and you might have to speak to an adult a few times to let them know it hasn’t stopped.

If you'd like your parents to talk to your school again, there’s support for them as well. Bullying UK has loads of advice for parents, but it can be good to think about what support you’d like right now. Sometimes saying what you’d like to happen can help people to find the best way to support you.

If you’re being bullied online, it’s important to remember to save any messages to show someone, but not to reply. This can be really difficult sometimes, but remember that you don’t have to handle all of this alone.

While the bullying is still happening it can help to record it in a bullying diary. This is somewhere that you write down what’s happened, when and by who. You can also say how it left you feeling. Writing down your feelings can sometimes help you to cope too. When you feel ready, something like a bullying diary can help to show people like your teachers and parents what's happening to you.

Bullying can have a big effect but things can change. There’s lots of ways to build your confidence after being bullied. And any time you’re feeling upset or you want to talk, Childline counsellors are there to listen.

Take care,

Sam

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