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i am 15 ever since i was 4 i have been bullied yes 11 years i am 16 next month i get bullied every day of my life it is hard i have been hurt by boys i have been scanted i have been public humilation just because my weight i am fat yes but it gets to me everyone says to ignore them but i can't and its hard i just need someone to tell because i feel like no-one listens friends at school are two faced they like me one day and not the next im not perfect but its hard when you get laughed it every minute of the day i just want a little break because even couple years ago a 50 year old woman thought she was funny and called me heather out of eastenders but the thing is i gave her mouth and she was going to hit me everyone thinks its funny to make fun of me but it hurts inside espically when its gon on for so long sam i really need your help because i don't know what to do anymore 

 

your sincerly E 

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Hi there E,

It’s good to hear from you and I’m glad you’ve got in touch.

I can hear how much of an affect the bullying has had on your life and it has left you feeling really down. Bullying can have a big impact on people and leave them really upset. Bullying is wrong and it’s not right for people to treat you this way.

It sounds like how things are in school have left you feeling really down and alone. It can be really important to tell someone who can support you if you’re experiencing bullying. In school, it is part of a teacher’s job to keep you safe from bullying.

Teachers can try different things to stop bullying and they might have a few ideas that could help. Sometimes it can take a few goes at telling a teacher before things start to change for the better.

If you decide to tell a teacher, it can be helpful to take things that can show them what is happening. Lots of people tell me that taking a diary of what has happened can really help. Also printing off bullying emails or messages can help teachers act on what is being said.

Parents or carers can also be good people to talk to about bullying and they might be able to do more than a teacher if the bullying is happening online. Lots of people tell me about that they are worried about how parents and teachers might react to hearing about bullying. So it can be good to think about who the right person to talk to is and when is the right time to approach them.

You could take a look at the bullying pages on the Explore section, or go to the Bullying website for more information and advice about what you can do to cope with bullying. You could also go to the message boards - which is where young people help and support each other.

I can hear how much you really want some support at the moment and I hope this message has helped. If you want to talk more about this or if anything else is on your mind, you can get in touch with a ChildLine counsellor anytime.

A ChildLine counsellor is someone you could talk over your feelings with. ChildLine counsellors don’t judge and won't tell anyone what you talk to them about.

You can get in touch with a ChildLine counsellor through the TALK section of the website. You can email them, log on for a 1-2-1 chat (an instant messenger) or you can call on 0800 1111, free and without it showing up on any bills.

Take care,

Sam

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