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Hi there,
Thank you for contacting me to talk about what is going on for you right now. You have done really well explaining what is happening and have been very brave to get in touch.
I can hear that what has happened has been very distressing for you. This guy has abused your trust. He shouldnt have asked you to take the picture in the first place and he certainly shouldnt have shared it with other people. It was very wrong of him to do this. He could also potentially be in trouble with the police because owning a picture of another young person without their bra on is technically illegal.
Unfortunately I get letters from a lot of young people who have found themselves in a similar situation. People will often use a lot of pressure to get someone to send them a naked picture and it can be very hard to say no. You might find it useful to watch the video about sexting in the Explore pages.
You have mentioned that your boyfriend dumped you after what happened with the photo. Youve talked about self-harm and being depressed and sometimes feeling anxious and suicidal. It also seems, from what you say that you may be anorexic. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot of very difficult issues right now. I wonder if anyone else knows just how tough life is feeling for you at the moment. Is there anyone at home or school, like a school nurse, or a counsellor that you could speak to?
I can hear that you are also having to cope with bullying and cyberbullying. You said that the school hasnt done much, which makes me think that you have been brave enough to tell an adult at least some of what has been happening. Unfortunately sometimes you need to tell an adult about bullying more than once before it stops completely. It can feel exhausting and unfair to have to keep finding the energy to ask for help, but you deserve to be supported through this.
Other young people tell us that the ChildLine message boards helps them to understand their situations better and be helped by those who have had similar experiences. You can also always contact a ChildLine counsellor about how you are feeling. They can speak to you confidentially and help you think about the options that you might have.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.